Sunday, February 3, 2013

Business Coaching - How Can You Create Win-Win Negotiations ...

Many people think that negotiation is a skill that only sales people need, but the reality is that everyone negotiates every day, both in business and in our daily lives. We negotiate everything from who will walk the dog this evening to what time your boss can expect that critical report to land on his desk.

Some people seem to negotiate with ease, while others feel incredible stress. Here are a few tips to eliminating the stress of negotiations and creating a win-win agreement every time

Negotiate from a position of abundance

Whether you?re negotiating a big deal or just where to go for lunch, always remember that there will be other days and other deals and you will win your fair share. Never go in to a negotiation thinking this is the only deal or the only lunch. In fact, it may help if you consider every negotiation like lunch?there?s always another one tomorrow.

Know what you can live with and what you can?t live without

If you know your bottom line, you know when to walk away from a negotiation and you know what you won?t give up. Knowing this information up front helps you focus and keeps the stress level down.

State clearly what you need or want

Negotiations are much easier if you can be upfront about what you want. Tell the other party what your budget is, or what your constraints are. Let them know what features are important to you. Now you can work together to get as close to what you want as possible.

Ask the other party what they need or want

The ideal win-win negotiation is one where both parties are open and up front about their wants and constraints. Eliminating the gamesmanship that mars so many negotiations eliminates stress and removes the need to ?win.? Oddly enough, when you remove the need for one party to win, it becomes much easier for both parties to win.

Ask yourself what?s fair and then give a little more

Most of us have a bias on our own behalf, so giving up that little extra may actually balance the scale. Even if you give more than you need to, it may pay off over time in repeat business and improved relationships.

Source: http://www.businesscoaching.com/how-can-you-create-win-win-negotiations/

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Plant scientists demonstrate new means of boosting maize yields

Feb. 3, 2013 ? A team of plant geneticists at Cold Spring Harbor Laboratory (CSHL) has successfully demonstrated what it describes as a "simple hypothesis" for making significant increases in yields for the maize plant.

Called corn by most people in North America, modern variants of the Zea mays plant are among the indispensable food crops that feed billions of the planet's people. As global population soars beyond 6 billion and heads for an estimated 8 to 9 billion by mid-century, efforts to boost yields of essential food crops takes on ever greater potential significance.

The new findings obtained by CSHL Professor David Jackson and colleagues, published online February 3 in Nature Genetics, represent the culmination of over a decade of research and creative thinking on how to perform genetic manipulations in maize that will have the effect of increasing the number of its seeds -- which most of us call kernels.

Plant growth and development depend on structures called meristems -- reservoirs in plants that consist of the plant version of stem cells. When prompted by genetic signals, cells in the meristem develop into the plant's organs -- leaves and flowers, for instance. Jackson's team has taken an interest in how quantitative variation in the pathways that regulate plant stem cells contribute to a plant's growth and yield.

"Our simple hypothesis was that an increase in the size of the inflorescence meristem -- the stem-cell reservoir that gives rise to flowers and ultimately, after pollination, seeds -- will provide more physical space for the development of the structures that mature into kernels."

Dr. Peter Bommert, a former postdoctoral fellow in the Jackson lab, performed an analytical technique on several maize variants that revealed what scientists call quantitative trait loci (QTLs): places along the chromosomes that "map" to specific complex traits such as yield. The analysis pointed to a gene that Jackson has been interested in since 2001, when he was first to clone it: a maize gene called FASCIATED EAR2 (FEA2).

Not long after cloning the gene, Jackson had a group of gifted Long Island high school students, part of a program called Partners for the Future, perform an analysis of literally thousands of maize ears. Their task was to meticulously count the number of rows of kernels on each ear. It was part of a research project that won the youths honors in the Intel Science competition. Jackson, meantime, gained important data that now has come to full fruition.

The lab's current research has now shown that by producing a weaker-than-normal version of the FEA2 gene -- one whose protein is mutated but still partly functional -- it is possible, as Jackson postulated, to increase meristem size, and in so doing, get a maize plant to produce ears with more rows and more kernels.

How many more? In two different crops of maize variants that the Jackson team grew in two locations with weakened versions of FEA2, the average ear had 18 to 20 rows and up to 289 kernels -- as compared with wild-type versions of the same varieties, with 14 to 16 rows and 256 kernels. Compared with the latter figure, the successful FEA2 mutants had a kernel yield increase of some 13%.

"We were excited to note this increase was accomplished without reducing the length of the ears or causing fasciation -- a deformation that tends to flatten the ears," Jackson says. Both of those characteristics, which can sharply lower yield, are prominent when FEA2 is completely missing, as the team's experiments also demonstrated.

Teosinte, the humble wild weed that Mesoamericans began to modify about 7000 years ago, beginning a process that resulted in the domestication of maize, makes only 2 rows of kernels; elite modern varieties of the plant can produce as many as 20.

A next step in the research is to cross-breed the "weak" FEA2 gene variant, or allele, associated with higher kernel yield with the best maize lines used in today's food crops to ask if it will produce a higher-yield plant.

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New Notre Dame bells make harmonious history

PARIS (AP) ? The cathedral of Notre Dame ? French for "our lady" ? has finally got the prima donna worthy of its name.

Weighing in at six and a half tons or 6,000 kilograms of glistening bronze, this lady is no ordinary person: she's a bell named Mary.

Mary is in fact the largest ? and loudest ? of nine new, gargantuan Notre Dame bells being blessed Saturday in the cathedral's nave by Archbishop Andre Armand Vingt-Trois.

"They are beautiful (bells)... We will hear them ringing today during the celebration, and we will hear them during coming years as Notre Dame's chimes," Father Edouard, a priest from outside Paris who had come for the blessing, said.

The nine casts were ordered for the cathedral's 850th birthday ? to replace the discordant "ding dang" of the previous four 19th century chimes. After the originals bells ? including the original Mary ? were destroyed in the French Revolution, the replacements were widely said to be France's most out-of-tune church bells. There's some irony that in Victor Hugo's classic novel "The Hunchback of Notre Dame," the solitary bell-ringer Quasimodo was deaf.

For Catholics, as well as visitors with pitch-perfect ears, it's a historic moment for the cathedral.

"During the French Revolution, they (the original bells) were all brought down and broken except (one) and four other bells that were recast in the middle of the 19th century ... This will complete in a definitive manner the entire set of 10 bells as conceived ... in the Middle Ages," Notre Dame rector Patrick Jacquin said.

Jean-Marie, Maurice, Benoit-Joseph, Steven, Marcel, Dennis, Anne-Genevieve, Gabriel will ring together with Mary to add a harmony to the French gothic landmark, not heard since 1789.

Travelers have come far and wide to catch a glimpse of the bronze giants ? on public display until Feb. 25.

"I came from Spain, just for today to see them," 21-year-old Eugenia Santos said. "Notre Dame and the bells are famous thanks to the church and also Victor Hugo ... With more bells, maybe Quasimodo won't be so lonely anymore."

"It's a great event," Sister Dorothee Noel Raharitafitasoa, of Madagascar, said.

Testament to the international pull of Notre Dame ? with its 20 million annual visitors ? on each bell is written "Via viatores quaerit," latin for "I am the path looking for travelers."

Each dome has a unique and different patterning, some with shiny, matte and etched sections, and each chime to a beautiful different pitch.

The first time revelers will able to hear the new pealing will be on March 23, just in time for Palm Sunday and Easter week.

Mary will soon be hoisted up to the gothic south tower ready to sound out ? echoed by other eight in the north tower ? over the medieval gargoyles, historic rooftops, and the snaking Seine River.

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Saturday, February 2, 2013

Baby Shower!

This past weekend, it was time to celebrate Baby Miller with a shower! Two dear friends hosted the party at my mom?s house. I had 20 guests including family and friends, and my aunt even joined in via Skype to watch the presents be opened.

Of course I was exhausted afterward and had to come home and take a nap but I had such a good time while I was there. It was a party I will never forget. Most of the party details were a surprise to me, which I enjoyed and I have the impression that my mom, Sarah, and Nicole had been working on the party details for awhile.

Some of the fun things we did included: decorating onesies,

playing the string game, and guessing which attributes the baby will get from Matt and me.

Of course the best part was the presents :) I couldn?t believe all the gifts that Baby Miller received.

Our nursery is ready to go now thanks to family and friends. The most exciting thing I got was a scrapbook from my mom for the baby. It has a bit of our family history in it, plus room for pictures of the baby shower, the baby coming home from the hospital, and the baby?s baptism. It sits on the top bookshelf in the nursery and I can?t wait to show Baby Miller when he/she is older.

All in all it was a fantastic party and I was so appreciative of all the amazing gifts my family and friends gave me and the baby. This weeks activity: Thank you cards!!!!

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Oil sands pollution: Why industry wants the carbon tax Harper hates ...

Prime Minister Stephen Harper has vilified political opponents who support a tax on carbon-dioxide emissions. The oil sands industry, Canada?s fastest growing CO2 polluter, says he?s out of step.

The contradiction of an industry seeking a new tax on itself has emerged in energy-rich Canada because producers are concerned the crude they process from tar-like sands will be barred from foreign markets for releasing more carbon in its production than competing fossil fuels.

At least with a tax, you know what you?re getting

Oil companies operating in Canada such as Exxon Mobil Corp., Total SA of France and Canada?s Cenovus Energy Inc. plan to convert billions of barrels of the sticky bitumen into diesel and gasoline. Under foreign and domestic pressure, they now see a greenhouse-gas levy helping to provide access to markets and more predictable costs for Canada?s biggest export industry, which shipped $68-billion of oil in 2011.

A carbon tax ?is one of the ways to promote better performance of the industry,? Andre Goffart, president of Total?s Canadian unit, said in an interview in Calgary. ?The principles are probably agreed upon by the players. The question is, where do you put the level to incentivize the industry to go in a more efficient way??

Europe?s third-largest oil company joins a group of competitors around the world calling for a price on carbon. Many favour taxes over a cap-and-trade system to encourage cuts. After European Union emissions credits plummeted in price, securitizing CO2 has lost favour among jurisdictions considering pollution limits, said Guy Turner, director of commodities and energy economics at Bloomberg New Energy Finance in London.

?What You?re Getting?

?At least with a tax, you know what you?re getting,? Turner said in an interview from London. ?The cost is in effect fixed. Industry will be able to lobby for a rate of tax that it feels it can wear.?

European Union carbon permits have sunk 88% from a 2008 intraday high of 29.69 euros (US$40.30) a metric ton. Permits for December dropped 10% Thursday to close at 3.42 euros, data from the ICE Futures Europe exchange in London show.

?A carbon tax maximizes the use of markets and minimizes complexity,? Pius Rolheiser, an Imperial Oil Ltd. spokesman, said in a phone interview. ?On that basis, a carbon tax is a better approach.? Imperial, Canada?s second-largest oil producer by market value, is 70%-owned by Exxon.

Brian Ferguson, chief executive officer of Calgary-based oil-sands producer Cenovus, said last year that a carbon tax is ?probably the most effective means of regulating and addressing the cost of carbon.?

Emissions Debate

The debate in Canada over how to slow the pace of emissions from the nation?s fastest-growing source of greenhouse gases echoes choices being considered around the world.

Conservative Prime Minister Harper, who said in remarks during a 2008 election campaign that a carbon tax would ?screw everybody? in Canada, favors other ways to curb greenhouse gases.

?Our government is committed to reduce GHG emissions at the industrial source rather than through an economy-distorting carbon tax regime,? Rob Taylor, a spokesman for Environment Minister Peter Kent, said in an e-mail.

The country needs to meet a 2020 commitment to lower emissions by 17% from 2005 levels under the Copenhagen Accord. Nations such as Australia and subnational governments have already chosen taxes to cut pollution.

Canada?s government introduced regulations last year that capped the amount of carbon that can be emitted by coal-fired power plants and has been negotiating with the oil-and-gas industry on similar rules.

Pricing ?Intuition?

Australia, the world?s largest per-capita emitter of greenhouse gases, in July set a fixed carbon price that works much like a tax of A$23 (US$24) a ton for the country?s largest 500 emitters, including miner BHP Billiton Ltd. The Canadian province of British Columbia enacted a carbon tax in 2008 that covers about 70% of fossil-fuel consumption, making its gasoline among the most expensive in the country.

?The intuition behind carbon pricing is straightforward: we should tax things that we do not want, and making it more expensive will reduce pollution,? Marc Lee, senior economist at the Ottawa-based Canadian Centre for Policy Alternatives in Vancouver, said in a Jan. 13 report. ?A carbon tax provides greater certainty around the price of GHG emissions, but poses a great deal of uncertainty around actual emission reductions.?

British Columbia?s carbon tax is currently pegged at $30 a ton and adds about 6.7 cents to a liter of gasoline. The tax has helped the province?s per-capita emissions decline almost 10% from 2008 to 2010, with families paying an average of $386 per household, the report said.

Hydropower Reliance

Neighbouring Alberta, home to the oil sands industry, has a carbon levy of $15 a ton for industrial emitters that exceed limits. Finland was the first country to enact a carbon tax, followed by Sweden in 1991 and a handful of other jurisdictions including the U.S. city of Boulder, Colorado.

Per-capita emissions in Canada, which relies on low-carbon hydropower for almost 60% of its electricity generation, are only exceeded by Australia, the U.S. and Saudi Arabia among large polluters.

?The world is monetizing carbon,? said Daniel Gagnier, president of the Energy Policy Institute of Canada, an advocacy group funded by business. ?If a country looks at Canada and says your energy exports are too carbon-intensive, then it becomes an economic competitiveness issue.?

A case in point is TransCanada Corp.?s Keystone XL pipeline. The project would bring Canadian heavy crude to the Gulf Coast, helping companies earn world prices for their commodity, which currently trades at a US$31.75 discount to benchmark U.S. crude because of scant capacity to move oil from Alberta.

Lobbying Efforts

After two years of lobbying U.S. officials to approve the pipeline, the Canadian government is now watching as environmental groups, emboldened by Canada?s 2011 annulment of the Kyoto Protocol, push to derail the $5.3-billion project.

At the same time, Canadian politicians are trying to thwart EU plans to implement a carbon-reduction directive that would penalize Canadian crude.

Still, global efforts to tax carbon emissions have slowed following the 2008 recession and the failure of negotiators at United Nations-sponsored talks to create a replacement for the Kyoto climate agreement that would include China and the U.S., the world?s largest emitters.

Canada, the seventh-largest emitter, was the first of 191 signatories to withdraw from Kyoto.

For oil-sands producers, carbon pricing may be the answer to reduce risk associated with carbon regulation and access to markets, said John Stephenson, a Toronto-based fund manager.

?What business hates is a lack of clarity,? Stephenson, who helps manage $2.7-billion at First Asset Investment Management Inc., said by phone. ?Even a bad tax would be better than discussions that are endless.?

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Source: http://business.financialpost.com/2013/02/01/why-the-oil-sands-industry-wants-the-carbon-tax-harper-hates/

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DIY Bicycle Barometer Advises Whether to Ride Your Bike or Take Public Transit

DIY Bicycle Barometer Advises Whether to Ride Your Bike or Take Public TransitDIY Bicycle Barometer Advises Whether to Ride Your Bike or Take Public TransitIf you're a fairweather bicycle commuter you might wish to know what the conditions will be like outside before you determine if you'll ride or take the subway, car, or bus. Maker weblog Optimise for the Common Case creator Richard J. Pope didn't wanted an easy way to make this decision so he built a "bicycle barometer" a Nanode-powered device that takes in data from weather sites and The London Underground and controls a dial that tells him whether to bicycle or ride public transit.

This data is reduced down to an analog display, modeled after a barometer, that advises the best method of transportation for that day. The info is weighted?snow will rank higher toward choosing the tube over a light rain. This is but one great example how private and public services providing APIs help develop tons of innovative projects.

If you'd like to build your own Richard provides code, instructions, and the design at his Github page you can find at the source link below.

Bicycle Barometer | Optimise for the Common Case via Hack A Day

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Friday, February 1, 2013

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The Sandwich Generation: Rising Financial Burdens for Middle-Aged Americans

The Sandwich Generation | Pew Social & Demographic Trends

"Nearly half (47%) of adults in their 40s and 50s have a parent age 65 or older and are either raising a young child or financially supporting a grown child (age 18 or older). And about one-in-seven middle-aged adults (15%) is providing financial support to both an aging parent and a child.

When survey respondents were asked if adult children have a responsibility to provide financial assistance to an elderly parent in need, fully 75% say yes, they do. Only 23% say this is not an adult child?s responsibility. By contrast, only about half of all respondents (52%) say parents have a responsibility to provide financial assistance to a grown child if he or she needs it. Some 44% say parents do not have a responsibility to do this.

However, the survey suggests that adults in the sandwich generation are just as happy with their lives overall as are other adults. "

How many in this ER community are in the sandwich generation, and contribute substantively to BOTH the parents and grown children? Do you agree with the findings of the Pew study?


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I fit into all of the above as well as supporting a 30 y/o wife. However, If you ask this question again in a year (2014), I will be 60 and will not be able to respond in the affirmative.


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I'm in that sandwich generation but have no kids and my mom is doing just fine. If my mom needed support I would help to a certain point but I can only do so much. My wife would probably want to help her parents much more but that's their culture.

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My wife would probably want to help her parents much more but that's their culture.

Culture, and family culture, make a big difference in how we handle these matters. In my family, it is almost unheard of for a parent or grown child to ask for help. But, if a parent or grown child asked for help, we would never refuse.

So, I have never had to give financial assistance to a parent or grown child*. But the other side of that coin is that I never got any help for anything as a grown child, even to pay for college, and I will not ask for any help when I am older.

*other than paying tuition, books, and $500/month partial living expenses for my daughter when she was in college

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Pour mustard on my head- I'm sandwiched.

I entered parenting later in life (was 39 and 41 when I had my boys) DH is 10 years older than me. So here I am - looking at balancing ER goals, college funding goals, and dealing with eldercare issues with my in-laws. I have a 10 year old, a 12 year old, and in-laws in crisis who are 86 and 89 years old.

My parents died in the last decade (fortunately they were solvent and lucid till the end.)
But my husbands parents are in need. So far we built a granny flat to help with caregivier needs for them. (FIL is in a wheelchair, MIL doesn't believe in nursing homes or in home help.)

She didn't like living in CA, so she moved them back to where they own a home.

(Fortunately - this frees up the nice little cottage as a rental income stream - helping ER budgets.)

We've already obtained emergency guardianship of FIL - because MIL refused to put him in a home and fired the in-home aides. DH is going for permanent guardianship of BOTH parents later this month. 2 of 3 "experts" (doctor and social worker) agree that MIL has dementia. We're still waiting on the psychologist report. And there is definitely expense associated with all this.

It's stressful. No question about that. Juggling kids needs, parents needs, and trying to navigate family politics as an in-law.

One advantage to being sandwiched... I felt we gave our kids a good role model when we actively helped with caregiving of their grandparents. Having grandparents live in a cottage in our back yard gave them lots of access - but also showed them that family takes care of family. A value I want to pass on to the boys.

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I'm squarely in that demographic. DW and I have a 21 year-old son with more college to go and an 18 year-old son heading to college this coming Fall. Thay both have been full-blown teenage boys, and I will leave it to your imagination to fill in the blanks in terms of the challenges they have presented for DW and I.

We are blessed to have all four parents still in our lives - mine 89 and 86, DW's 83 and 80. They are getting needy. As I type, I am "babysitting" the in-laws while their primary caregiver (DW's sister) is out of town for a few days.

Both sets of parents are in good shape financially (so far). Honestly, they are consuming all the time we can give them though. Between teenagers and and needy elderly parents, DW and I sometimes don't feel like there is enough oxygen in the room, so to speak.........

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I just finished this process with the departure of my 87 year old mother. Tried everything I could in the last few years to get her to move in with DW and me. Even though we all get along great she would not do it. Thankfully, we raise two independent and successful children that have not been much of a burden once they flew away from the nest. Had that not been the case it would have been MUCH HARDER for us to accept a boomerang child than to care for a frail parent.

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Sandwiched but determined to RE anyway. We bought our retirement home early last year in our retirement destination and moved MIL into it. We will join her when I retire from my job this summer and she will stay with us. Four months after that DD boomeranged and is with us and will soon give us our first grandchild and will have to stay with us while she works to regain her independence. DS is doing well in college but lives at home with us to save on room and board.

Wow, not how I envisioned I would enter ER! But, it offers many other opportunities to experience. I read on this site a long time ago, and can't remember where, a post that stated that ER doesn't save you from the ups and downs of life, you just don't have to go to work while you experience them. I think that is great perspective, and I'll embrace ER as I embrace my expanded family -- and as it turns out, my retirement home isn't too big after all!

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As my net worth increases my acceptance of the idea that my kids could live at home beyond college or be boomerang kids also increases. I hope that they do not pick up on this because do not think it would be good for them to know this is an option. My kids are pre-teen so I guess it may be a little early to worry about it. I expect to have to help my mom out financially one day and I am OK with that too.

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Just a suggestion for any who might benefit from it:

After my father died (in his late 70s), my mother (five years older than he was) decided she no longer had the energy to manager her own affairs, but still wanted independence.

She was still sharp mentally, just tired physically. So she gave me durable power of attorney over everything and put all her accounts in joint ownership with me (JTWROS).

For the rest of her life, she enjoyed not having to deal with any financial matters -- just told me what she wanted and told me to take care of it. She kept one credit card for restaurants and the like, but never saw a bill. When she wanted cash, she just asked me for whatever amount she wanted.

Since I had total control, I invested her money prudently and it was enough to cover her expenses until she died, fifteen years later.

The arrangement worked well. I had a little more work than merely managing my own finances, but I was spared the worry about what would become of hers.

Assuming you are on good terms with your parent(s), I think this is something you might consider bringing up at the right time. In my case, it was totally my mother's idea -- she just felt comfortable turning control over to me.

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